Musing.

The reflection of a 30 something trying to make a difference, find brilliance, wear heals & look fabulous every single damn day!

Today.

Mary Jean Iron : Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so. One day I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky and want, more than all the world, your return.

Candy Colors.

I love the colors of Fall. Everything about fall is beautiful.
Beautiful leaves.
Beautiful weather.
Beautiful colors.
Beautiful changes.
Beautiful me.

Smitten.

The Quintessential.

Who is the quintessential, well me oh course! What a nice relaxing weekend I had all to myself. It was nice to catch up on some projects, both creative and personal.

The Posh In My Ish.

I always go back to this color. I am in total and complete love with it. It makes my smacker all smiles...this lacquer.

The Posh In My Ish.

And She Laughed Out Loud, Hard.

Actions speak louder than words. According to Marie Claire, there are 10 red flags to consider before taking your relationship to the next level. So do yourself a favor and reconsider if it's worth it for you.
[Bolded are the ones that scream to me right now, hell yes.]

1. You are not on the VIP list for breaking news
Were you the last to learn about this person's job promotion or newborn niece or nephew? Once things are serious, you should be among the first to know about exciting news, or bad news

2. They avoid meeting your family or friends
If they are shying away from meeting your friends/family consistently, then there are problems. Even if they are very shy, they should want to meet those who are important to you.

3. They don't make any sacrifices
Healthy relationships don't require bending over backwards all the time, but a certain amount of sacrifice is necessary in a selfless union. When two of my friends first started dating one another, she demanded that he go to Farm Aid for her birthday, which was also the opening NFL football Sunday. While all the guys gathered to watch the games, he was sweltering on some field attending Farm Aid -- an event he never would have gone to if she hadn't have invited him. Now that's sacrifice.


4. They can't fit in your future
I admit it. When I meet guys, I envision future moments I may some day share with them. Most of my scenarios are him with me and my family at a Thanksgiving holiday or at a summer crabfeast. If I'm really into him, I usually relish the thought. If not, I kinda cringe.

5. They are too controlling
It's scary but I've seen many relationships where guys forbid girls to hang out with certain friends, or wear certain clothes. Major problem if someone is controlling you and not allowing you to be who you want to be within a relationship.

6. The "what are we" conversation fails miserably
Almost every relationship hits that crossroads where you both decide if it's worth taking the plunge into being exclusive and calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend. If they are confused and surprised that you're ready to get serious, the timing is not right, and you should try to figure out how long you want to wait around until they are ready.

7. They talk about plans that don't involve you
My sister has major wanderlust. She's always talking about heading off to Chicago or living in London for a year. She often talks about these things with no regard for the fact that she has a boyfriend at the time. If you find that someone is making plans or talking about far off places without inviting you along for the ride, don't let yourself get too into this person.

8. Your friends or family don't like them
Remember that your friends and family know you best. Don't take their thoughts with a grain of salt. It's one thing if a person or two don't get along with your significant other, but if a lot of them are saying you should reconsider, then do it. Unfortunately, we often find out about how much our friends hated that person after this person is gone.

9. They violated your trust
Whether it's cheating or a little lie that they got caught in, it will be hard to regain trust. Trust is something we don't give away easily, and once it's gone it's hard to get it back. We'll always be wondering about that lie, and doubt will creep in more and more as our minds fixate on that lie. Too often, people take trust for granted and once they lose it they never get it back.

10. You practice "unbalanced dating"
Are you always seeing his friends or doing things that he wants to do? Do you just let him pick the restaurants and events? Or is it the other way around? Relationships are fun when you are both able to contribute. If you're not taking turns creating fun times together, it will most likely fizzle out.

What would you add to the list? Ever been a victim of any of these red flags?

Trust.

This has been on my mind often lately!!
So tonight I really got a lot of perspective from a friend.
Some people really are not worth thinking about.
Remember, it is not the burdens of life that weigh us down, it is how we handle them.

Autumn |ˈôtəm|

autumn |ˈôtəm|
noun
the third season of the year, when crops and fruits are gathered and leaves fall, in the northern hemisphere from September to November and in the southern hemisphere from March to May : the countryside is ablaze with color in autumn | [as adj. ] autumn leaves | figurative he was in the autumn of his life.

Fall.  Love it.  The smells - I have a candle called "autumn spice" that just smells cozy and wonderful.  The change in the colors of the leaves (doesn't happen so much here, i kind of have to live vicariously through my friends as they post pictures).  The crisp air (when it does come sometime in October).  I got the new PB fall catalog today.  I have yet to look through it but the fall catalog is always my favorite.

[The picture is from my front lawn when I lived in Lawrence. It was beautiful and I miss it!]

Pretty Girl.

He Asked.

Andrew asked Krista to be his wifey. She said, YES!

West Is The Best.

• MTV
• Music Videos
• MTV Shows
• Entertainment News

Remembering 9-11.

It's OK.
It's OK to be scared.
It's OK to not always be the brave gal.
It's OK to look forward to fun.
It's OK to look forward to life.
It's OK.

Chasing Pavement.

Have you ever chased someone and they totally disappear. Not physically but altogether mentally and lead you on to know nothing but crazy. Holy Moly!
SWEET BABY JESUS!

TGIFS.

Ok so this could totally be one of my cute t-shirts! The boys would totally {heart} it!
TGIFS
Thank God It's Football Season

Wow.

OK so yesterday was totally a CRAZY feeling kinda day...like moving mountains! I ran into Lane at the pool which was kind of a weird kinda feeling since we when out to dinner together. He said 'hey' and was like "dang girl, that's all I get is a "hey!" He did come up to me and ask me to dinner but, honestly I was way tired and say. "No." I told him to give me a call sometime this week. He smiled and say, "I'll be looking forward to it.{" OK then...maybe! Cuz right now in my life I am TOTALLY concentrating on my career and my passion which is, teaching teacher how to teach reading to kidddo baby!

Happy Labor Day.

Pffffff, very very hot weather today... the kind of hot and sticky that you need an extra shower in the middle of the day to cool down...The best weather to spend at the pool... cause it's hot there too...