Deal-Breakers.

Relationships are not 50/50. That's just some politically correct thing we decided to start saying in the 80s when we decided to fix the marriage plan, and it led us to these double digit divorce rates. Relationships are 100 percent/100 percent. And I say that because you are responsible for yourself in the relationship. You are responsible for what you bring, what you elicit from your partner, what you maintain or allow with your partner. You need to look at you. Relationships are fixed from individuals healing from the inside out.

Relationship deal-breakers...we all have them. What's a real deal-breaker, do you to spot it early, and walk away so you don't waste time and get a broken heart.
These are mine:



1) “I don’t believe in dating just one woman” Not wanting to date just one woman is also code that they believe there is someone better out there, and that you just don’t make the cut. Are you willing to settle for that?

2) “Woohoo! Saturday night! Let’s go party!” I am all for going drinking and partying with friends every now and then, but if you’re over a certain age – let’s say 21 for argument’s sake, then getting plastered every weekend is just not cool anymore. If you’re with someone whose idea of fun is drinking tequila shots till they’re comatose every Fri and Sat night, then the relationship will probably not go very far. Let’s face it, not only is this an expensive habit, how much hair holding can you put up with? Do you want to have a fun, loving relationship that can go somewhere, or get stuck babysitting the drunk guy vomiting in the gutter? Your choice.

3) “It was only once. I’ll never do it again.”
While I can understand the intense temptation to take back a cheater (they are, after all, generally very charming), DON’T. There are very few people who truly change, and cheaters usually don’t. Rebuilding trust in a relationship also takes a lot of time and hard work, so unless you think that you guys are really something special and belong together forever, there may not be any point in going there when you risk getting hurt again. There are other men out there who have never hurt you. That's got to be a better bet.

4) “Where are you? I’ve been calling for an hour!”
Let’s get this straight – if you’ve promised someone you’ll be somewhere, they are within their rights to be pissed off when you don’t show up. But if you’ve made other plans and informed your partner, and they STILL call you several times and get mad at you for not being there, it’s a deal breaker. It is not only demanding behaviour, it also means they have unrealistic standards for a relationship and too great a need for control.

5) “Tonight? Nah, I’m busy.”
Someone who doesn’t have time for you now will never have time for you. I don’t mean they should drop everything just to rush to your side, but neither should you have to book them a week in advance for a date. If you feel like you’re always begging or waiting for their attention, then one of you is clearly not into the relationship.

6) "Soulmate fantasy."
You believe that there is only one soulmate out there to complete you... and that when you meet them, you’ll know right away. Well, this may seem like a harmless fairytale fantasy but can also be the path to self-destruction. There are many people that can be considered your ‘soulmate’, it just depends on how you look at it. If you keep waiting for that one true love to show up, you will either keep ending up in disappointing relationships because you fall too hard, too fast, or become bitter when you don’t find them.

7) "He calls your dog Whoopi"
…and didn’t understand when you dissolved floods of tears. Nor did he apologise. Boys just don’t understand how important our pets are! This heinous crime is definitely worthy of an “it’s over” call.

8) "Bad Kisser"
....enough said!